Have not received RSVP for wedding from almost 70 people. What do I tell the caterer?

Is there a magic formula used when you do not receive replies from almost 70 invited guests? I need to tell the caterer a number Fri. This is a buffet.Have not received RSVP for wedding from almost 70 people. What do I tell the caterer?
Then you have until Thursday night to reach each of these people and ask them what their plans are. You don't guess at 70 people. Get your maid of honor, mom, friends of mom or whoever will help and start calling and emailing. Lots of luck!
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You need to get on the phone and call those people. Don't mess around.
Call all the people who have not yet RSVPed. That way you can get an accurate count for the caterer. A "guesstimate" will just not do in this circumstance.



If the guest list is too long, split it among your family members or bridesmaids to help get it done before Friday.
No one has replied? I would start calling people or emailing them letting them know you need an answer for the venue.
You need to start calling those people with a polite "I haven't heard from you so I wanted to make sure you got the invite." They will likely apologize profusely and give you a response.



Otherwise....you may have 70 surprise guests.
Im in the same boat as the bride. I have heard from people "I assumed you knew I would be there" which of course made me mad. So I m givign them one more week and then believe me, I will be on the phone. I dont like surprises, i mean what if they show up and eat and then you relaized that your uncle couldnt eat because of unexpected guests. Get on the Phone and get Bridezilla if you have to.
You have no choice but to contact those you haven't heard from to find out if they are attending. You don't give the caterer any headcount until then. Anyone you don't hear from, count them as a no. If they decide to show up anyway and there isn't enough food, that's their fault for not replying as they should have.
Oh....that is sooo rude of people!



Sorry, but what you need to do is to call those people. I know it's a hassle, but you cannot ASSUME that they won't show. You want to make sure you have enough food and seats for them.



So...DON'T feel bad about calling them. They are the rude ones for not responding. Get your fiance and/or your mom/his mom to help with the calls.
No problem, two simple solutions:

First ask your caterer for an extention till Monday,

since you will be contacting all non-replies during

the week-end.



Second do the following:

The best way to contact them is to ask a friend or someone

in the family not familiar with the person they are calling

(this defers small talk and neither feel uncomfortable

with the call).



Suggested conversation:

Hi this is ___(person calling)____I am responsible

for making the seating chart and place cards for the

___(name) Wedding_______will you be attending?

(If so get the name and info. if not mark it off the list)

(Leave a message if not in with email and phone option).



Congrats
You need to get on the phone and start calling them all before Friday. Tell them you have to have an answer for the caterer ------you'll get it from them. Get some help from your family / bridesmaids.
We invited 235 people, and 130 were able to attend our wedding:



130 / 235 = 55%



In terms of RSVPs, of the 235 people invited (these are mutually exclusive events):



a.)

18 had to be reminded via e-mail before they would RSVP ( 7.7% )



b.)

10 had to be personally called via telephone before they would RSVP ( 4.2% )



c.)

2 had to be personally visited at their home before they would RSVP! ( 0.9% )



d.)

1 couple from (b) did not receive their invite in the mail (but they were able to attend after the phone call we made)



My advice to you is to start "pulling teeth." Give some of your guests reminder e-mails, phone calls, or even personal visits.



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You and your fiance and your parents and your fiance's parents have 4 days to phone these boors. Get on it now.
Turn your computer off and start calling these people ASAP. You don't want to be charged for food that doesn't get eaten and even worse, you don't want people to go without food (although, if you ask me, it would be their own fault, but they won't see it that way).
I would advise to call people as well. Its really ignorant of those who decide not to RSVP. I thought we had it bad (8 out 80, 10%) but doesn't even come close to the 70 people you have good luck!
No. Just count all the RSVPs you have received so far on Friday, then give that number to the caterer.



Those who didn't RSVP by the stated date are assumed not to attend, and so they can't complain if they show up and there isn't enough food for them. I suppose they won't be fed.